Parenting Counter-Intuitively
Parenting strategies from the perspective of a couple that now have adult children and what things worked that are might be counter to what is the default or what seems easy when you're in the thick of parenting.There're a lot of resources for the basics of parenting (like quality time, etc.), and this podcast builds on that foundation to take it to the next level.It's not about having good kids, it's about equipping them to become successful adults.
Episodes
14 episodes
Be an example even when they're not looking - Season 2 Episode 3
What difference does it make what we do when our kids can't see us? In this episode, we take a look at the importance of consistent character and how building consistent habits make us better parents.What's something that you do occasio...
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Season 2
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Episode 3
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11:14
Special episode for guys - equip your wife to equip successful kids - Season 2 Episode 2
In season 1 episode 4, Tammy and Josh talked about prioritizing your purpose and your marriage ahead of your kids so that you would be equipped to be an even better parent.This time, for the first time, we’ll have an episode without Tam...
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30:15
No such thing as a little white lie - Season 2 Episode 1
While most of us would say that truth-telling is intuitive, sometimes we still tell "little white lies" or worse, and by our reactions, we as parents can unintentionally incentivize our kids to bend the truth. In this episode, we'll ex...
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Season 2
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Episode 1
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31:15
Talk to Strangers - Episode 11
Aren’t strangers supposed to be avoided for real safety reasons? Yes and no. Kids definitely need to be wary of strangers handing out free candy from a van a half a block from the school, but saying that kids shouldn’t accept rides from s...
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Season 1
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Episode 11
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8:44
Don’t Set Rules for Dating - Episode 10
Don't set rules for Dating?!? That sounds disastrous! If we don’t set rules, they’ll do all kinds of crazy out-of-bounds stuff, won’t they? Yes, without any rules, it would be crazy, but we don’t say there shouldn’t BE rules, but th...
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Season 1
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Episode 10
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39:58
Don't Buy Things For Your Kids - Episode 9
Aren't we supposed to provide the things our kids want and need?!? How are they going to be good kids if we don't manage their finances for them?In this episode we unpack some of the difficulties and benefits of setting up our kids to make ...
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Season 1
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Episode 9
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35:28
Don't Solve Your Kids' Problems - Episode 8
Aren't we supposed to help our kids solve their problems?!? How are they going to function if they don't get their problems solved?In this episode we unpack some of the benefits of coaching our kids to learn to try and solve their own probl...
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Season 1
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Episode 8
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13:34
Embarrass Your Kids Early and Often - Episode 7
Aren't we supposed to shelter our kids from embarrassment?!?In this episode we unpack some of the benefits of inoculating your kids against embarrassment and long term confidence that can be built with the right intentional support....
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Season 1
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Episode 7
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22:53
Feeding your kids hunger for attention - Episode 6
Is it wise to feed our kids appetite for attention? If so when, and what are the consequences if we're not intentional about it?We'll answer these questions with some examples from our 3 decades of parenting and other resources, t...
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Season 1
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Episode 6
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18:15
Be open about your own mistakes - Episode 5
This month, we unpack the benefits of airing your dirty laundry for your kids to learn from.After a brief explanation of the concept, we’re joined by our 22 year old son for some real-life application of how this has helped him from his...
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Season 1
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Episode 5
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21:08
Make sure that your kids are NOT your #1 priority - Episode 4
This month, we explore what things should be priorities ahead of the kids which counter-intuitively is better for them.After a brief explanation of the concept, we’re joined by our 20 year old daughter for some real-life stories of what...
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Season 1
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Episode 4
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22:56
Default to YES - Episode 3
Isn't it safer to have "no" be your default answer when your kids make a request? In this episode, we take a look at some counter-intuitive benefits to being more intentional when rarely saying no, and instead, saying yes more often.Aft...
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Season 1
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Episode 3
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27:31
Don't tell your kids that you're proud of them - Episode 2
Why wouldn’t you tell your kids that you’re proud of them?!? In this episode, we look at what it means to be proud of something, and propose an alternative that can actually build up our kids even better.After a brief explanati...
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Season 1
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Episode 2
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14:11
It's not about having good kids - Episode 1
The first episode of the Parenting Counter-Intuitively podcast sets the foundation for the series and the tag-line that sets up what subsequent episodes will be built on.The Parenting Counter-intuitively podcast is intended to ...
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Season 1
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Episode 1
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20:35